Embracing the Holiday “No”
It’s that time of year — time to embrace a powerful word: “no.”
As the heartbeat of your family, you often find yourself juggling countless responsibilities and requests. Everyone wants something, and you’re stretched so thin, it’s hard to imagine where you’ll find the time and mental energy for it all. On the other hand, you feel guilty saying no, like you’re letting everyone down.
Here’s what I want you to hear today: Saying no is a good thing. It’s a hugely important act of self-care that directly impacts your mental health.
You may be superwoman, but you can’t do everything. So saying no doesn’t make you selfish or neglectful — it makes you human. Your mental health matters, and setting boundaries helps to preserve your mental wellbeing, just like taking medicine helps when you get physically ill.
Consider this: saying no is an act of self-respect. It’s acknowledging your limits and recognizing that you, too, deserve care and consideration. By saying no, you create space for what truly matters and maintain a healthy balance in your life.
Saying no is not a sign of weakness; it’s a declaration of strength. It takes courage to prioritize your well-being over external expectations. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. When you say yes to every request, you may find yourself overwhelmed and struggling to meet the needs of those around you. By saying no, you protect your mental and emotional reserves, ensuring you have the energy you need to navigate the challenges life throws your way.
Think of saying no as an investment in your mental wealth. It allows you to focus on what aligns with your values and brings you joy. So, the next time you feel the pressure to say yes to every request, especially one that doesn’t line up with what you value most: first pause, then consider the impact on your mental health. Embrace the power of no, and empower yourself to live a more balanced and fulfilling life. You deserve it.
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It’s time to make it normal to talk about the mental load Black women bear — and empower and uplift each other. I encourage conversation around this, and I want to invite you to my private Facebook group, a judgment-free zone where you can be open about what’s going on with your mental health.
